This is an excerpt from the introduction of Friedman’s recently published book, in which he teaches readers how to possess leadership qualities on an interpersonal and functional level. He explores the value of creativity, integrity, authenticity and the integration of work with personal life, and the “four-way-wins” process.
Total leadership is a novel synthesis of ideas that have emerged from two traditionally separate fields: the study of leadership and the study of how individuals can find harmony among the different parts of their lives.
Learning the Total Leadership method and producing four-way wins is possible for anyone willing to practice being real (acting with authenticity), being whole (acting with integrity), and being innovative (acting with creativity). Leadership can – indeed must – be learned. It is learned by taking action toward a direction you choose, gaining support, exercising skills, reflecting on your experience, and then coaching others. And you can always get better at leadership, much as a master musician is always perfecting the tools of her craft.
Total Leadership is not an abstract idea: it is a structured method that produces measurable change. You become more focused on the things that matter, and so you feel more grounded, more like the person you want to be. You generate more support and feel more connected to the important people in your life. You become more resilient in response to the vagaries of our turbulent world. And you become more open to discovery and so feel more hopeful, indeed enthusiastic, about the future and your power to shape it.